How To Stop Worrying About Things You Can’t Control
There has been a lot of emphasis on changing the way you think to change the way you feel. I know this well because it's what I used to discuss as a psychotherapist. But the concept that altering your cognition can consistently lead to feeling better about yourself isn't for everyone.
While it works at times, it isn't foolproof, is it? If stopping overthinking, worrying, or self-critical thoughts were easy, you wouldn't find yourself calling a friend, reading positive affirmations, or staying up late trying to feel better. The good news is, you don’t have to force positive thoughts to feel better.
When you're in an anxious, worried, panicked state, your thinking abilities shut down because your brain and body are wired for survival, to protect you at all costs when. you are under “threat” or “danger.” The issue is that your body and brain might think you are in danger, when in fact you are not.
Instead of trying to think your way out of your worries, focus on changing your body’s physiological state. This BOTTOM-UP approach (starting with the body then moving to your thoughts) often proves more effective for many of my clients when traditional thought-stopping techniques fall short.
When your body disengages from the fight or flight response and you are able to be more calm, you activate the forebrain or prefrontal cortex, which helps enhance your thinking and reasoning skills. Now, your body and brain are better equipped to think through the problem.
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